Soul ties were God’s idea to bring blessing into our lives. It was His plan that wherever a soul tie existed between two persons, there would be a mutually beneficial sharing of soul blessings. It is because of the existence of sin that Satan has been able to counterfeit God’s good design and use God-instituted soul ties to perpetuate his plan in our lives.

Godly Soul Ties in Marriage:  God purposed and promised from the beginning that a husband and wife would be joined as “one flesh.” This would be enacted by the sexual union experienced in marital intercourse, an outward sign of the inward grace given by God for this “one flesh” promise. God designed this soul tie for our good and intended it for blessing.

Godly Soul Ties Between Parent and Child: Good soul ties are founded on the law of love is alive in the parent/child relationship. Parents are to be the first demonstration of the love of God for a child. As this is lived out, a union is formed—first within the womb and then throughout infancy and childhood. The parent is connected on a deep and godly level with the child and the child with the parent, as long as the love that exists demonstrates the love of the Heavenly Parent, our loving and Almighty Father God.

Godly Soul Ties Between Friends:  Another kind of soul tie which is godly is deep and committed friendship as demonstrated for us in the union of David and Jonathan. “The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul”. 1 Sam. 18:1

Godly Soul Ties Between Believers: The family of God is realized in the Body of Christ. “The whole body joined and knit together by what every joint supplies…causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love” Eph. 4:16. This godly relationship between Christians in the Body of Christ is necessary for the advancement of the Kingdom of God! We are bound together with ties that may not be physically seen, but are nonetheless the reality of our life together! 

     Godly Soul Ties       

– created by godly bonds between humans
– founded on love
– reinforced by patterns of godly behavior
– function within godly boundaries
– leads to greater holiness
– results in blessing and wholeness 


Satan cannot create or function within the realm that is good or godly. Therefore, Satan brings about a sinful counterfeit. Ungodly soul ties result from a perversion of what God designed as good and holy. That which God intended for good is marked and distorted, thereby deviating from its intended right purpose. Look at these distortions:

Ungodly Soul Ties

– created by ungodly human bonding
– founded on lust or selfish desire
– reinforced by sinful patterns
– function outside God’s boundaries
– leads to greater sin
– results in curses and destruction

Soul Ties Formed in an Ungodly Friendship, Relationship or Affiliation:“Do not be deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations_ corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character” 1 Cor. 15:33.  God is aware we as people are influenced by our friends and associations. The fruit of soul ties that develop with sinful or evil companions, co-workers and organizations (even ministries!) produce behavior which is contrary to the Spirit of God.  Ungodly soul ties created through close friendships with unbelievers are Satan’s counterfeit and are intended to bring curses and destruction. 

It is possible to have Ungodly soul ties with animals. things, pastors, spiritual leaders, parents, children, the demonic and even the dead.  Anything that takes our focus off of God, Jesus Christ and the leading of the Holy Spirit should be look into as a potential unGodly soul tie.  Another way to look at this concept is that these are “idols” in our lives.

Luke 10:27 “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; this is the first commandment.”  Anything that prevents you from that is idolatry. Anything that comes between you and God, that keeps you from serving Him and loving Him above all, is an idol, a little god in your life. Anything that keeps you from obeying Him and His Word is an idol and must be broken and removed from your life if you are to serve Him with a pure and whole heart and partake of the Kingdom.

Ungodly Soul Ties Formed Through Sexual Sin: Because God designed sexuality to be expressed exclusively in the sanctity and safety of the marital relationship, A flood of blessing comes into the couple through this bridge or cord which connects and binds their souls together. When a man and woman or a man and a man or a woman and a woman engage in sinful sexual intimacy outside of marriage, instead of receiving a blessing from the joining of their bodies, they receive a curse. Through sexual relationship outside of marriage, evil soul ties are forged. Those who engage in sex outside of marriage become the “one flesh” (God’s Law) which God intended solely for husband and wife.


  • Obsessive preoccupation with another, to the neglect of the things of the Lord.
  • Tendencies to be domineering and controlling in a relationship.
  • Tendencies to be passive and apathetic in a relationship (easily manipulated).
  • Inability to truly forgive from the heart.
  • Another person’s voice playing over and over in the mind like a tape-recorder.
  • Inability to bring a relationship under the godly order and control of the Holy Spirit.
  • Patterns of anger, blame and accusations in a relationship.
  • Fear of “being real with” or speaking truth to another (intimidation and fear of man).
  • Psychic or occultic phenomena within a relationship.

A soul tie is a ‘channel’. Think of a soul tie as a drinking straw through which flows mental, emotional and spiritual things, be they from the human spirit, be they psychically induced, demonically inspired, or genuine and edifying from the Lord.  Because demonic spirits can transfer so easily through soul ties, it’s essential to identify and destroy those that are ungodly, controlling, or emotionally binding.

Unless these soul ties are cut, they will produce a harvest of bad fruit in the life of the Christian adult and certainly in the sexual and marital life.


As we walk through the steps to cutting ungodly soul ties, remember that these ties between your soul and the soul of another were created by a “legal contract”, enacted a legal point of access between your souls, in the spiritual realm. As cut these ties, we are canceling a legal spiritual contract — we are rendering null and void that which sin produced and we are cutting away the souls which were bound, thereby creating a godly distance between you and the other person.

Here are the steps you may take to cut ungodly soul ties and remember, although you may follow these steps in your own prayer closet, we are called to confess our faults to one another according to James 5:16, and walking through these steps out loud with a trusted Christian friend or pastor (same gender, please!) is extremely helpful: 

1. Confession & Repentance

2. Renounce the connection made through ungodly bonding.

3. Post a spiritual eviction notice on your soul.

4. Command any spirits which are connect to this soul tie to leave in Christ’s Name.

5. Forgive and offer God’s personal blessing on the person


FIRST, repentance is necessary. In ungodly soul ties, God’s laws have somehow been violated. Express any personal guilt you may have in this matter If there has been sexual sin; confess it, even if you have confessed before. Ask God to forgive you of any part you played in developing this ungodly soul tie. In the case of molestation or other situations where these is no sin in the person who has been abused, It is good to express the reality that sin was in the abuser and that this sin produced this soul tie.

SECOND, renounce the connection made through ungodly bonding. Express that this contract is “cancelled” and the soul tie is “cut.” Do this out loud in the authority of Jesus Christ. You need to hear yourself say it and certainly, the spiritual realm need to hear that you are canceling this contract.

THIRD, post a spiritual eviction notice on your soul. Command, in Christ’s Name, that the person has NO LEGAL ACCESS to your soul through ungodly means. Pronounce your soul set free from theirs and any sin, curses, or bondage that may have resulted from this tie. Announce that the enemy has no further legal right to your soul and that every ungodly soul tie developed in this relationship is now destroyed in the Name of Jesus!

FOURTH, command any spirits which are connect to this soul tie to leave in Christ’s Name. Because we recognize that soul ties are a prime vehicle on which spirits can ride into our lives, it is good to use this opportunity to pronounce that they also are evicted!

FIFTH and finally, forgive and offer God’s personal blessing on the person whose soul you have just cut from yours. Ask the Lord to bless them, for their salvation and forgive them for any part they have played in bringing the enemy’s plan into your life.

REJOICE!  Some have after-effects of a sense of peace, or even sadness. Regardless of what emotions may or may not accompany your prayerful cutting of ungodly soul ties, you have assured with confidence the cancellation of those ties the spirit realm! Rejoice our Lord is in the business of setting captives free and in these prayers and your conscientious follow-up, your soul has been set free from ungodly ties produced by sin!



Father in heaven, thank you for revealing to me the presence of this/these soul tie(s) with:

                        __________________________________ (ALL the names of involved)

                        __________________________________ (ALL the names on items or issues involved)

I confess and ask you to forgive me for my sin which activated this ungodly soul tie.  I ask you to forgive me for any part I played in developing this ungodly soul tie.  (Note: In the case of molestation or other situations where these is no sin in the person who has been abused, confession of sin is not necessary, although it is good to express the reality that sin was evident in the abuser and that this sin produced this soul tie.) 

By the power of the Holy Spirit and in the name of Jesus I “cancel” this tie and “cut” it off from me. I command, in Jesus name, that these persons/things have NO LEGAL ACCESS to my soul through ungodly means. My soul is set free from theirs and any sin, curses, or bondage that may have resulted from this tie.  I command any spirits tieD to this soul tie, to depart in Jesus name.

I bless those I just released from these soul ties and ask the Lord to bless them, for their salvation and forgive them for any part they have played in bringing the enemy’s plan into your life. 

I thank you Father that I am now free, in Jesus name Amen.



Soul Ties — 50 Comments

  1. Thank you for this website page on soul ties. While I have prayed often a prayer like “In Jesus Name I break the evil soul tie _______________ and cast out the evil soul __________.” I still had some ungodly connections with leadership at my former church. I attended my former church for a number of years… free of any evil soul tie manifestations. But that change during the summer of 2008 as all hell seemed to break loose in the spirit realm. Much to my sorrow I was forced to leave my church and don’t know if I will ever relate to another church with complete trust. For a long time I realized I had idolized the senior pastor and that sin created an evil soul tie eventually. I have been crying out to God to release me from any psychic or supernatural connection. I think this site has helped answer that prayer and perhaps give me additional insight.

  2. I have been saved over twenty years and just as I meditate on this I wounder “why I have never learned about this before?” I don’t want to think that my pastors were ignorant, but they did focused more on prevention. Thank you!!

  3. Thank you so much for your kind comments. We are hoping to be a resource for believers to understand all the tools that the Lord has provided for us to walking in a victorious Spirit-led lifestyle.

  4. I have a really deep rooted type of soul tie with my fiancee. I know it’s a bad one because every sign that has been described both fornication and the negativity that comes along with this soul tie has developed. I told him, myself and my family and friends that I was done with him, yet we both can’t go too many days without seeing one another or connecting with one another both physically, mentally emotionally and spiritually. I’m to the point where I cannot stand being around him due to past issues (control,abuse,etc.) yet, i cannot get him out of my system (so to speak). I just said the prayer to remove the soul tie. I really need our souls to be untied because I know our relationship is not healthy, especially for me. I guess at this time I need to just put it in God’s hands and pray that it ends soon.

  5. Thank you for your kind comments. We pray for God’s freedom for you and that the Lord will lead you and direct you in His paths for your life.

  6. I guess my relationship would fall under the ungodly soul tie category. I’ve been living with the same guy for almost 15years. We both are believers however we are not married. Now I’m wondering if we were to get married is it possible to break the ties and start anew?

  7. God wants you to be in covenant relationship with Himself and each other. It is a 3 strand cord that can’t be broken. When you come before the Lord in a marriage covenant, He can respond to your prayer of agreement to break all “soul ties” from the past in the name of Jesus and your relationship will grow stronger and more fulfilling as He blesses your union. Yes, I believe doing this will move your relationship into a new and higher realm.

  8. I came upon your site today about ungodly soul ties. I have several questions that I would like to ask: If one breaks ungodly soul tie with a relative, will his/her sins be separated from the relative? What if the relative uses that person’s name in an ungodly ritual to get him/her to forsake God?

  9. What if you want to break ungodly soul ties with a family member whom you know will run into you some time in the future?

  10. If you break, in the name of jesus the ungodly soul tie, it no longer has control over you. If the relative uses your name in an ungodly ritual, it is a “curse” and that “curse” can also be broken off in the name of Jesus Christ!

  11. I was told today about Soul Ties never heard of this before. I have a situation that I really need to be set free from. I was in a relationship for about 20 years with this man. The relationship was very unhealthy but for some reason I could not leave. This man cheated on me the whole time. He was also very abusive mentally and physically. I have just recently tried to cut all ties with him but he doesn’t make it easy for me. I need all and any help that I can get. I pray that this is what I need to help me through this.

  12. i was holding on to two peoples quilt which destroyed my life, but saved my life at the same time for i found a living God

    when i was 18 i became over worked and stressed and unable to see clearly, i then dated and had a relationship with a girl who was not a good match for me but was unaware of this, i started to worry she was unfaithful, but did nothing about it until at 19 i was burnt out, i went to the doctors saying i have no energy
    but they could not find anything

    i broke it of with the girl and 6 months latter burnt out,
    to cut the story a year after that i camped in the bush by the river
    and seeked god as medical doctors and medication never helped,
    God showed up but healing never came

    i have been very unwell / bed ridden suicide attempts and no matter what i did to recover i could not, im now 36 and on a disability pension
    But about 3 months ago the lord told me to camp over night in a cave so
    i obeyed and The lord showed me i was carrying trauma,
    what happened was that girl i dated when i was 18 was sleeping with a friend of mine continually behind my back, once the lord showed me this and i kept forgiving them through Christ as it caused me alot of pain i then seen and felt there guilt
    lift of me, and since then i am starting to go forward

    through all the years of stress, insomnia and anxiety my body has become toxic with heavy metals but the lord has told me he is going to fully restore me

    i know some people prayed and there trauma or soul ties were healed in a couple of months and another person in 8 months,

    but for me god allowed me to carry there quilt for 17 – 18 years which drained me / im not bitter as i needed to learn what i needed to learn and god really is so amazing !!

    John 10:10

    God will come through for you as it is written in Romans 8: 28
    and through the fire we are refined.

  13. I have been in a relationship for 11 years with a man who suffers mental illness and also smokes dope. I am a Christian and he is Greek orthodox. He is a functioning addict and a workaholic. Never stops. He is a chef, and never misses a days work but he is definitely under the power of Satan. He calls himself the King of Kings, and all of his writings cannot be comprehended and 666 is constantly in the mix.

    I have just prayed the prayer to break this soul tie.

    He believes he has to rewrite the Bible, and he has boxes piled to the ceiling with religious rantings. He waxes human hair, casts stones, puts curses on countries, and believes when there are earthquakes, floods and tidal waves, that he has caused it to happen.

    He says he decides who will be written in the book of life, and believes he is a sorcerer. He does not think he has anything wrong with him and believes that he saw Jesus as a child and this is his calling to re write the Bible because it is filled with lies.

    I know it is a spiritual thing and that he has demonic strongholds over his life. I have been naïve and very much loved him and he has always loved me and been kind to me but I have decided for the sake of my soul and my children that I am going to part from him. It is hard and I feel both sad, but pleased because I have stood up to the Devil and his demonic forces.

    I have prayed for his deliverance often, but see no evidence of change. I have sat and prayed with him, and had him repeat the sinners prayer, but nothing, so I know I have to move on and can only hope that he survives it all. He is on medication which he receives in the form on injection, but there is not much change and his thoughts and writings continue. I know he is under the power of Satan, and I can only hope that he finds his salvation one day.

  14. I just recently found out about soul ties but it made perfect scence ,I have been with my husband for 7 years but we have only been married for 3 , when we first got to gether everything was good I was only 16 at the time and he was my first real relationship as time went on he became bitter he has so much hate he calles me names always puts me down ,I think that he is like this because he was in a very bad relationship with a thirty year old women when he was 16 and she cheated on him and he had got in to an argument with hurt and hurt his arm really bad she left him while he was in the hospital he had almost died . So I feel like that’s why he is so angry and calles me names bc he has brought that to are relationship , I’m not sure what to do .

  15. Liz,
    I have copied an article from regarding co-dependency. It may be helpful to you as you determine the best boundaries to set as you attempt to better your relationship with your husband. Boundaries are necessary to develop healthy behaviors. For example: no name calling or no violence. You cannot suddenly tell him that he is not allowed to do certain things. A meeting in which both of you are calm and cooperative is the time to discuss these things.

    It is very possible he has a soul tie. But it is also possible there is unforgiveness in his heart, either toward her or you, or someone else that has hurt him. If he is a Christian, he needs to be led into a prayer of forgiveness in order to be free from the past.

    I encourage you to get some counseling. Hopefully, you are attending a church that will offer free counseling from a Godly perspective. If you are not attending church, check on line to look for a Bible believing church in your area.

    There are some great classes available for people that deal with co-dependency and other issues. Celebrate Recovery is a good group that you check on line to see if there is one in your area. Meanwhile, ask the Lord to show you if co-dependency is your issue or if there is unforgiveness in your own heart. All of us deal with the issue of forgiveness. I have a good prayer on our web site under the heading of “Freedom prayers”.

    God bless you as you seek Him regarding these issues.

    Here is the co-dependency article:
    Question: “What does the Bible say about codependency?”

    Answer: Codependency is a mental health designation for relationships in which people use one another to get their own emotional needs met, but in a selfish and destructive manner. Codependency is not a mental health diagnosis, but a symptom associated with many psychological disorders. Originally, codependent was a term used to describe partners in chemical dependency or in a relationship with an abusive person. Today, however, the term has been broadened to describe several types of destructive relationship patterns.

    Codependency comes in many forms, but they are all similar in nature. They all revolve around what a person can get from someone else by giving him or her something in return. For example, a parent may expect to control an adult child because of the parent’s financial support of the child. Another common scenario is when a friend will not confront another friend about his drug use for fear of losing a relationship with him. At the core the relationship is a focus on using one another rather than giving unconditional love and honest acceptance. This stems from our selfish human nature. Codependent people are like a parasite and a host: they each use the other to get something for themselves. Such relationships are not helpful, because neither party is willing to be truthful, and both parties are selfishly clinging to whatever it is they are getting (money, sex, friendship, admiration, power).

    One result of a codependent relationship pattern is that God takes second place to people. Codependents rely on each other for emotional needs and even some physical needs rather than take care of themselves. They also lack faith and trust in God to care for their needs and, as a result, manipulate others to get what they want. Codependent people typically are attracted to one another and will keep each other stuck in a dysfunctional blind spot by telling each other what they want to hear. This way, they both can feel okay, despite the chaos their choices are creating. Obviously, people who avoid telling the truth in love have trouble recognizing their own sinful habits or need for repentance.

    Related to codependency are other issues such as pride, fear of man (Proverbs 29:25), and boundaries. Pride blinds us from seeing our true self the way God sees us. While God loves us regardless of our sin, He has declared that we are 100 percent wicked and in need of a savior (Mark 10:18). That message offends our pride, which tells us we are basically good. Codependent people are loyal—in a destructive way—to their friends, so that they support sinful or even illegal behavior. Through denial or idealization, codependents keep each other feeling that they are not the ones with the problem. Codependency is a way to keep the blinders on and so ignore our sin.

    The same is true with the fear of man. We want people to think highly of us. Many times, this results in people-pleasing behaviors to create a façade to hide the genuine, flawed self.

    Finally, everyone needs healthy boundaries to maintain convictions and avoid being manipulated. However, codependent people don’t feel like a whole person and tend to copy others or attach themselves to people to gain a sense of identity. This results in an inability to make their own choices, because they want to preserve their dependent relationships. They also overstep others’ boundaries and try to control others rather than focus on themselves.

    The Bible addresses these issues by telling us how we ought to relate to one another. One concept found in Scripture is interdependency, which is the state of being mutually responsible to others while sharing a common set of principles. In the case of husband and wife, the Bible indicates that both spouses are dependent on each other for completion. Genesis 2:24 says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Both Jesus and Paul quoted this verse, and these three elements—leaving, cleaving, uniting—are often cited by marriage counselors as the major principles of a biblical marriage. Other passages also show this interdependence of husband and wife: Ephesians 5:22-33; 1Timothy 5:8; and Proverbs 31:10-31. As each spouse fulfills his or her role, the other benefits. This is biblical interdependency, and it should be embraced, not avoided. The Lord’s emphasis in dependency is on service, not on self.

    We also find the concept of interdependence in regard to spiritual gifts: “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms” (1 Peter 4:10). Both Romans 12 and 1 Corinthians 12 expand this teaching in the explanation of spiritual gifts. Ephesians 4:11-16 exhorts us to work with, depend on, and serve one another as the Lord has enabled us. In so doing, “the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.” Hebrews 10:24-25 commands us to “consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. . . . Let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

    Christian interdependence is vital to the body of Christ and its individual members. We are to love one another, eschew selfish ambition, and exercise the gifts of God for the benefit of others (John 13:34-35; Romans 12:3-6; Philippians 2:3-4). This is diametrically opposed to the selfishness, dishonesty, and destructiveness of codependency.

    Recommended Resources: When People Are Big and God Is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man by Edward Welch and Logos Bible Software.


  16. God bless you for allowing yourself to be used by God. I have some questions
    1. Is it possible to be in a soul tie with someone who is unaware of it? As I kept thinking of the old friend, was she sensing it wherever she was?
    2. I thank God I don’t like her anymore. I forgive her and will even pray for her salvation as you suggested, though I wouldn’t pray God’s blessings on her. Considering what I’ve been through, I’d rather pray blessings on myself. Please pray for me too. Thank you

  17. Yes, it is possible to have to have a soul tie with someone who is not aware of it. Good examples are when young people have a soul tie with a celebrity who does not know the young person. The one piece of advice I would give is that in the Bible Jesus said: Luke 6:28 (AMP) Invoke blessings upon and pray for the happiness of those who curse you, implore God’s blessing (favor) upon those who abuse you [who revile, reproach, disparage, and high-handedly misuse you].
    You don’t have to want to do that, but you will be set free if you will make the decision to try. I pray God’s blessings and peace over you.

  18. I prayed to break my emotional affair soul tie. However, I am finding that I still have thoughts of her and tempted to reconnect. We ended the affair months ago and God revealed to me the issue of soul ties recently. I said the prayer and asked God’s forgiveness. I destroyed every picture and blocked social media sites from her. Still I feel angry and sad. I am still tormented but the thoughts have greatly reduced. When these thoughts do come i often quote scripture but they come back. What should I do?

  19. I read somewhere of praying “In Jesus name I circumcise this thought.” Perhaps such a prayer might help. IJN

  20. Brian,
    Yes, it is hard to take complete control of our thought lives. 2 Corinthians 10:5 says: “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.”
    This scripture indicates that taking our thoughts captive is an action required by us. So, when the thought occurs, we actively say “no, in Jesus’ Name” to dwelling on the thought. Replace the thought with a prayer of thanksgiving – something simple like, “thank You, Lord, for my salvation.” or “thank You for my job.” You can worship God in small ways: “Lord, I worship You because You are the creator of all good things.”

    Another thing that may help you would be to forgive the person with whom you had a soul tie. Forgiveness does not always mean restoration of relationship, and certainly not in the case of a soul tie. But, it does release you from any resentment or woundedness you may have. Here is the prayer you can pray:
    Lord, I don’t know how to make forgiveness happen. I can’t cleanse my heart or change my feelings. I don’t know how to trust, and I’m afraid to hold my heart open. But today I’m making a choice to forgive. Please God, give me the willingness and strength to persevere in choosing until forgiveness is accomplished in me by Your power.
    I choose to forgive my father/mother for …..
    I choose to forgive my husband/wife for …..
    I choose to forgive ______________ for ….
    Forgive in me all my sinful and unrighteous responses …..
    Father, I let go of all resentments and bitterness stored in my heart. Wash me clean. Forgive me for all condemning judgments I have made. Give me a new and right spirit within me that will enable me to hate sin but look with Your compassion and love upon the sinner. Heal the wounded heart within me. Pour Your love in. Bless those who wounded me.
    Let Your light shine into all the hidden places of my heart. Enlighten the eyes of my heart, Lord, to see You and love You as You really are, and to walk in Your way. In Jesus name, Amen.
    Sincerely, Dave

  21. This is an interesting thought I had not heard before. Circumcision means “to cut around”. I am assuming the teaching has to do with cutting off a thought with the result being purity.
    Thank you for your input. Dave

  22. My husband and I have been married just over a year we knew each other a year before we got married. At that time everything was good no problems. After six months of meeting him he was sent to prison for a year, I stood by him faithfully for the whole year. We were speaking of marriage before he went to jail and while he was in jail we planned to go through with it. I always spoke about was he sure he was ready, he in the past had lived a wild life in clubs bars strip clubs, has had many women. He assured me over and over again that he was ready to settle down and leave all that alone. So he got out we went through with the marriage. Things were good for a couple months then things started getting bad, I found out he was trying to get in touch with an ex of his, I confronted him he admitted it I forgave him and believed it wouldn’t happen again. A few weeks later he is just continuously getting depressed. He didn’t have a job yet and his license suspended, I worked full time with 3 kids that I brought into the marriage, so I start urging him to get a job, it becomes arguments, anyways he expects me to give him money, things steady get worse, he puts locks on his phone, he is having emotional relations with other females and texting and meeting up with them, not spending time with me I notice he cant look at me anymore, this goes on so long that finally we separate for a while, by his choice he says he needs his space he made a mistake he wasn’t ready to get married. meanwhile im a mess emotionally because im in love with this man I was ready for marriage and believed in him and trusted him, I knew what I was in for. while we were separated he still called and would pop up over at my house, he was speaking with other females and had sex with one of them during that time, he ended up coming home before thanksgiving, I got fed up and said he had to be all in or nothing so hes been back ever since but we argue I don’t feel like he loves me I ask him all the time he says he does and I ask him so much cuz his actions don’t reflect his words and he is not as loving or affectionate as he used to be. he still has lock on his phone, which I will not go in anyway for fear of seeing something that would hurt my feelings. He would always say to me I wasn’t the type for him he was used to being with woman who would do whatever he said and would have 3somes with him, so I go ahead and set up that encounter and we go through with it and I know growing up a Christian that it is wrong and im wrong for trying so hard to get him to love me like he used to. Just hoping and praying that he can return to being the man I met. Things are okay somewhat now, hes back home, however he lost his job due to his excessive drinking on weeknights before work his car broke and he has had some other bad luck. He is constantly sayin I wanna control his life, which I do not and I ask too many questions and oh I could go on and on. To the point I really truly feel that we have a bad evil soul tie and us and our marriage are under attack. I love my husband and want to stay married Im wondering is there anyway for us to break the soul tie and stay married and have a good one. I also think that one reason we have a bad one is cuz I literally adore him so much that its hard to carry on with my hobbies or my kids I just feel the need to always be in his presence. I want our marriage to work and I need to break the soul tie. Can you give me any advice please?

  23. Hi Dave. I still confusing regarding ungodly soul ties..

    I always felt constatntly tired and lost all my energy surround my mom. I love her much, but she seems depend on me to fulfill her emotional needs. I cant laugh and free to be me near her. Its like i often felt guilty near her. My parents isn’t spirrit filled yet as Christian. Not believing in water baptized. I live with my parents now. Do i have to separate mysself from them? Does cut soul ties means only break it in the spirrit by the prayer, or we have to cut the communication also? Its really hard for me to leave them, as i need to recover my mental and my self. As the result of this ungodly soul ties, my Christianity become so miserable. I have no stable life so far. And as the result, i got quite severe mental illness. And it almost leads me to gave up my Christianity, i ashamed with my Christian life’s testimony also tired being messed up.

    The second question, i tend to require approval from my Pastor, and it comes to a point where i cant make the imagination of my Pastor away. I am more fear to him than to God. His approval means so much to me. Should i find another church. As the result of ungodly soul ties with him and the church, i became so far away from God, and always blame my pastor if i didn’t get his approval or attention. And God sometimes rebuke me with Isaiah 51:12-13. I realize that i am so afraid of my Pastor than God, but it seems i cant get rid of the fear i had towards him.

  24. Thank you for your information. I have been soul tied to my boyfriend of 6 years. This has caused me a lot of pain and a lot of issues as a result. God revealed to me today that in order to be free from this ungodly, unhealthy, codependent and painful relationship is to pray in authority in the breaking bondage of this soul tie in Jesus name! I am so thankful for this revelation. I have been waiting many years to find the answer in being free from this relationship. Although I love my ex boyfriend very much, I knew that it was not blessed which brought on many cursings. I pray that anyone who is in an ungodly relationship that is keeping them paralyzed will find freedom with the prayer above. God bless everyone!

  25. I am so grateful for this site. I just found out about soul ties today & it was a huge revelation to me. My question is if the person that you had the soul tie with was your boyfriend and he comes back into your life after the soul tie has been broken. Can you still be with this person or ia it forsure you will be tied again . I didnt have sex with this person but there was a very strong connection that i can not get over for 3 years. So do i have a risk of another tie just by spending time with this person?
    Thank you again.

  26. Is it considered ungodly when a non-believer falls in love with someone, but that someone doesn’t reciprocate the feelings, even though the non-believer starts to believe (albeit slowly)? I.e. if love goes one-way, and the one who loves still believes and has faith in the one who’s loved, what does this constitute?

  27. Can you intercede for someone else to cut their soulties? My husband has an ungodly soultie with a guy he became friends with a couple of months ago that has caused him to quickly stray far from God.

  28. You can intercede by asking God to continue to give your husband the opportunity to make the right choice of his will. He, however must ultimately chose to do right. You can “bind” that anti God spirit from affecting you or your family in the name of Jesus.

  29. a guy began pursuing me a year ago, but i had known him for three years back in school and we werent friends perse just a person who said hi to me texted occasionally. so he began textimg constantly and calling then he began askin me to help find him a shag buddy coz he wanted a no strings attached, i tried hookin him up once but he said he wasnt attracted to her and then after that he began actively pursuing me, i resisted it for abt 6months, then i realised tht i had developed an attachment and feelings for him for i constantly thought about him and communicated with him on a daily basis and finally i gave in fully knowing he didnt love me and was probably sleeping wth other women. i knew he was bad, i knew that i shouldnt get mixed up with him, so i would cut communication for two or three months then i would miss him so much n hook up with him again, i am now obsessed with him, i think about him everymoment, i have imaginary conversations with him in my head, everything i buy or do i consider him in my choices, i cry about him and curse the day i met him coz he never looks for me first so if i dnt check him out.we could stay months without communication, and i just become one bomb of crazy waiting to explode. i am a single mother of a 3yr old, and i separated from the baby dady coz he kept insistin i convert to islam n when i redused he stopped providing financial support. i have never in my life loved and obsessed about a person like this, that song `everything i do i do it for you` literary applies to me coz even when i havent seen him in 3 months i constantly think and have imaginary conversations wth him. am a mess and i dont like this person that i have become and i need out now. please pray for me.

  30. All of the symptoms of a soul tie are present in your message. If you desire freedom from this man and this soul tie, I encourage you to go back to the web site and pray the prayer of release. Praying the prayer is not a magic formula, but a declaration in the spirit against any enemy (from the devil) control in our lives. The Bible tells us that we are not fighting against people, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in heavenly places. (Ephesians 6:12) So, this is why we pray to God, because it is a spiritual battle. We cannot do this alone. God bless you as you move forward with Him.

  31. Is it possible to pray and break the soultie between myself and my ex yet it seems that we are still yearning for each other.we are both married. We can even feel when the other is sad or this possible

  32. Hello, thank you so much for this site. I would like to ask, assuming that I have recognised that I am in an ungodly soul tie situation with someone and have decided to break that soul tie (by going through the steps/prayer that you have taught) and I am successful in doing so by His grace, what about the other person?

    If I have broken the soul tie on my side, will the other person also “automatically” have his soul tie with me broken (but the other person is a non-believer and does not believe in or care about “breaking any soul ties”)? Or, put another way, if I am no longer tormented by the ungodly soul tie because I have broken it on my side, will the other person also enjoy this freedom automatically, or will he still be having feelings of torment on his side?

    Thank you very much in advance for your advice/answer and please keep up the excellent work that you are doing in this much-neglected but very important area of “soul ties”.

  33. Hi Dave
    I have so many questions about soul ties

    I have prayed with a pastor to cut all soul ties with my ex but I have some questions would you please help me.
    I was dating a guy for 4 years last year we broke up for 3 months than got back together. We broke up again on the 1st of febuary and about two weeks later he had a new girlfriend. He called me to say no matter how hard he trys for some reason he cant move on all he does is think about me.

    So I went to a pastor for help they said we must break soul ties…
    so I would like to find out
    Once the soul tie is broken would he go on and just forget about me?
    must he go and break it himself ?
    has people ever gotten back together after a soul tie has been broken?
    If I broke it from my side is it broken too for him? Will he feel nothing sooner than me?

  34. Hello dave,
    my name is Priscilla i’m from Nigeria. I have been having issues with soul tie and psychic attacks because of my past relationships but i thank God for his mercies, healing and deliverances. Thanks for your article, been blessed by it tremendously, after the prayers feel restored and refreshed. Thank you and God bless you.

  35. Hi Dave,

    I’m just wondering what can happen after you break an ungodly soul tie with a parent. If you sustain a relationship with that person can the ungodly tie be reborn ? If the person displays damaging behavior does God still want us to have contact with that person ? Is there any scriptural basis for breaking contact with a parent ?

  36. Brenda,

    If a parent is displaying damaging behavior, you must set some boundaries. You can keep a relationship if the boundaries you have set are being honored. If they are not being honored and your safety or your phychological well-being is being threatened, a relationship is probably not possible. If you decide to re-establish relationship with anyone with whom you have broken a soul tie, the propensity is indeed very strong that the soul tie can be re-established. This would need much prayer and understanding for what God is asking you to do.

    Biblically speaking, boundaries are related to self-control. The Bible commands us to control ourselves, whereas our human nature desires to control others (Titus 2:12). If left unchecked, our natural desires run roughshod over others. Personal boundaries help to limit our selfish inclination to control or manipulate others. Likewise, boundaries protect us from those who have no self-control and who wish to control us. A person with clear, healthy boundaries communicates to others what is and is not permissible, saying, in effect, “This is my jurisdiction, and you have no right to interfere.

    Dave – LifeCoach321

  37. Dear Tassy,
    Your former boyfriend will have to break off the soul tie with you if he wishes to be free from his feelings for you. If he is not a believer, it is distinctly probable that he will not understand what this is all about.

    In order to keep this soul tie from you to him under the control of the Holy Spirit, I encourage you to stop communication with him. Continued communication only serves to ignite it once again. It is probably unadvisable for you to be trying to help him. Simply tell him that new boundaries have to be set for your own emotional well-being. As you further your relationship with Jesus and your soul is fed by the Word of God, you will begin to sense a satisfaction that you never had with the former boyfriend. I recommend you visit a great web site: and go to the search box for the page about “quiet time”. This will help you develop a regular time with God that will help in every arena of your life.

    Be encouraged with Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and peace and not for evil – to give you a future and a hope in your final outcome.”

    Blessings, Dave – Lifecoach321

  38. Thank you for th prayer to break soul ties. I have been pretty blind and did not know such relationships could exist. Never again will I put anyone above my Lord Jesus.

  39. I just recently learned about Soul ties and my friend actually had a prophetic dream that actually happened as I continued to feel strongholds present in my life and during the time the Holy Spirit kept speaking to my spiritual mother’s heart about me needing deliverance. Mind you none of us had even talked about what was really going on until all of this was revealed. I renounced and broke the soul ties of my past but here is the issue. My husband first wife passed away almost nine years ago and there is a strong soul tie to her still which is why I believe we have so much issue in our marriage but also how some of those strongholds in my life became present. I can’t do the dream Justice but in my friends dream it pretty much represented the soul tie he has to her and had details about her death as well as her exact features of how she looked even though she has never seen his past wife. The thing is My husband and I had sexual relations and now I feel like the stronghold is trying to come back like that presence of that soul tie has tried to tie itself back to me. When I’m not around him im on fire for jesus and I am so happy and as soon as I am home it is like the life is sucked out of me and the kids and fights and arguments and all kinds of craziness happens in the house. He won’t even admit his soul is still tied to her and as much as I want to stay in this marriage I don’t even want to be intimate because I don’t want any part of that soul tie attaching to my spirit. It is almost like I don’t know what to do because I don’t want a divorce but I don’t want my soul to be tormented because his is still tied to her and there seems to be an unhealthy soul tie between him and my stepdaughter who is him and his past wife’s child.

  40. Hello, Kenyatta,
    Thank you for visiting our web site and for your question. I am sorry to hear that things have been difficult for you and your family. You are right about the effects of soul ties being far reaching and very unsettling.

    You have made a good decision by breaking the soul ties of the past in your life. You have a huge influence over the spiritual atmosphere in your home. There is absolutely nothing to fear when you have cleansed your home, and yourself, spiritually and taken dominion of the home God has given you. Also, a soul tie cannot jump off your husband and on to you. A soul tie is established through an ungodly alliance with another person. In your husband’s case he may have reinforced his soul tie with his previous wife with sinful patterns after her death. There are many ways a soul tie is reinforced, but the most important thing for you to know is that is NOT your soul tie.

    So, what do we do with that when we are married and in union with the person that has a soul tie? If he is unwilling to deal with this and truly does not understand how lethal it is, then it is now up to you to bind that spirit that wants to come into your home in the form of unrest, bickering and fighting. How does this look when you are right in the middle of all the lack of peace? Matthew 18:18 instructs us on this matter: “Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.” Your prayer would not be, “please God take this away.” Your prayer is a declaration to the spirits that have invaded your property and to satan himself, “In the mighty Name of Jesus, I evict the spirits that have come into the home God has given me authority over, I bind the effects of those spirits (name the spirits) and I loose the spirit of peace, love and joy. I thank You, Lord, for the authority you have given us as believers over these spirits. I pray a blessing over my husband that he would have a softened heart toward the things of God. In Jesus’ Name, a-men.”

    Spiritually cleansing your home:
    1) Set boundaries in your house. Boundaries are a set of limits that indicate what is and what isn’t permitted. Some are set from a practical perspective, others for health reasons. Teenagers will often test these boundaries and challenge the authority they’ve lived under. This is when tough love is necessary to hold your line and not compromise. For example, we don’t allow smoking or alcohol in our house, and we don’t have any pay channels that allow pornography to come across the TV. You must agree upon and set the boundaries to prevent entrance of unwanted junk into your dwelling place. Set similar boundaries for the adults too.
    2) Create a place for worship and prayer. Our homes should have a specific place set apart where we meet intimately with the Lord. Identify a peaceful place—a porch, office or bedroom—where you can close the door and enter into prayer.
    3) Anoint your house. Anointing your house involves taking a small portion of olive oil, which represents the Holy Spirit’s anointing, and applying it with your finger to the posts of your door, both outside and inside the home. While the oil itself does not have any intrinsic value, in Scripture the act of anointing was seen as a consecration of a person or thing to God.
    4) Mark your house. The Lord instructed the early Israelites to mark the gates of their homes with the Word of God. This would be difficult today and would certainly draw attention if we began painting Scripture on the outside of our homes. In Bible times a sacred object called a mezuzah (meaning “doorpost”) served as a reminder to those living in the home that the house had been dedicated to God and that those living therein were committed to walk in accordance with God’s Word. Some people see the mezuzah as a charm designed to ward off evil spirits, but this is certainly not the original intent. The underlying point is to have a physical mark upon your house—a reminder of God’s covenant with your family and your dwelling place.
    5) Purge the atmosphere with praise and worship. Praise and worship music can fill the room while we are away. This will purge the atmosphere and invite the presence of the Holy Spirit. In Scripture, David’s music brought refreshing and peace to a tormented king (1 Sam. 16:23). If music had this effect in David’s life and ministry, why would it not have the same effect today?
    This is a long response to your question, but it is important that you recognize the authority you have and how to use it effectively. You are a believer, you are a child of God with authority over satanic elements in your sphere of influence. Luke 9:1 teaches us about authority: Then he called his twelve disciples together, and gave them power and authority over all devils, and to cure diseases.
    You ought to consider having a spirit led friend walk around your home with you as you pray over each room. It is wise to have someone in agreement with you. I will pray for you now. Lord, I pray for Kenyatta and for the assignment you have given her. I pray for peace and for strength as she begins to find freedom from the things that have come against her and her family. Thank You that You always supply our every need. In Jesus’ Name, a-men.
    Dave Burwell

  41. Dave. Thank you for this site. Position: I believe I have met the one. We fell in love without any hint of sexual influence (hadn’t even held hands). Once the “feelings” conversation came up, he totally denied me, and I ended our friendship. Over a period of 10 months, the Lord has directed me as to how to pray, what to pray, how to fight in the spirit for him about things that were going on with him, etc. etc. I’m firm in my belief that my initial connection with this man was birthed out of a Divine appointment. He finally acknowledged his love for me (10 – 10 1/2 months after the friendship ended, which was filled with back and forth of our being friends again and not being friends again), and we ended up falling. I believe that I had a soul tie to him before we messed up, and I believe that what God has spoken to me was that He had built the relationship with Godly love, but that we had defiled it, and now He has to tear it down and rebuild it. We basically don’t talk and I’m in the process and trying to break the ungodly soul tie.

    Question: Is it possible for the Lord to cleanse and ungodly soul tie that started off being godly? I’m thinking that that’s what we did; defiled a godly soul tie. If so, does this make the process more difficult in becoming free? Also, will God have to completely break the love that we have for each other in order to rebuild the relationship because of the ungodly soul tie, or can He do it with the love still intact? (I know that he still loves me and I definitely still love him, but we do not talk to each other. I think he’s mad at me and probably thinks I’m still mad at him…I’m not, just still hurt by his behavior and not willing to trust my heart in his hands right now. But I’d do anything for us to come together to pray and talk about what we did and why we should wait, and love each other through this. Not sure if that’s doable). Please help. And 1 other question; because we females are naturally emotional creatures and me are not, do soul ties affect men the same way it affects women? And nobody talks abut the physical affects that happen. I don’t want to discuss because it is sometime very strong (thank God it is subsiding, but it still pops up every once in awhile).

    Thanks for your answer. I will return to see your response. May God bless you.

  42. Tracy,
    Question: Is it possible for the Lord to cleanse and ungodly soul tie that started off being godly? Of course,
    God can redeem almost anything, any sin, or any wrong doing. The question for you is, do you really want to get involved permanently in a relationship that been so unreliable? If the two of you cannot decide what you mean to each other at this time, it may unlikely to change in the future. As for when this soul tie occurred, it really does not matter. If the tie is now unhealthy, which it seems to be, it should be broken by you. No matter what your future holds together, you certainly would not want the foundation of your relationship to be an unhealthy and ungodly soul tie.

    Question; because we females are naturally emotional creatures and me are not, do soul ties affect men the same way it affects women? The soul tie probably looks different with each person. (The never ending longing for the other person and the effects on the way people think and act as a result of having a soul tie.) However, no matter if it is a man or woman, in order to restore a redeemed and holy position with God, the soul tie must be broken. God does not break the soul tie, you do.

    I encourage you to look over the prayer again and pray as necessary.


  43. some well know men propose to me i reply them no without reasonable ideal but eventually married to unknown person, a lot of things happen in the marriage e.g still birth, hallucilation, depression, obession and manipulation later my husband invited a pastor to pray for me but before he pray he strech his hand toward me i decovered someting removing from my ample like ring (invisible) after dat he lay hand on my head d follow day i started feel strange thing in my body as if it take away my glory since then is like am exiting but not alive a week later during daylight darkness overshadow me my zeal die down about everythings of life so with issue soultie i need counsel.tanks

  44. Hi, Dave. I’m Dave, too. My situation is: my wife of 33 years Have been divorced to 14 months. Neither of us has remarried. I now believe that she has had a Jezebel spirit for some time, but I wasn’t aware of it. I have several questions concerning what is the godly thing to do. The question I have is, believing that the marriage vow is sacred, and how God hates divorce, where does my ex-wife and I stand in God’s eyes? Am I still bound to her? Is our soul tie still valid when she’s in her spiritual condition? Does He release me from my vow? Or am I to hold on in faith until she is delivered and returned to me? Do I maintain our soul tie but pray protection from her demonic activity? Or do I sever it altogether until she is delivered? Is it still a good soul tie or is it now a bad soul tie? Which takes precedence, my faith that God will protect me, or my own protection from demonic attacks because of it? I haven’t seen answers to these questions.bthanks.

  45. My husband has had an affair with our neighbour for 9 months.
    he wont stop lying about it. He totally denies it.
    i know he is in love with this woman & treats her much kinder than he treats me.

    I cant trust him so we are moving away to a new area & im pretty sure he is not seeing her anymore but im concerned about the bond they have formed.

    Before i married my husband i was unfortunate to form a very strong soul tie with my ex boyfriend of 2 years which i could not break free from.
    i did not know about soul ties then & after we broke up i spent 10 years crying out to God to help me & free me.
    i could not stop longing for this person he was the first thing i thought about upon waking & the last thing on my mind before falling asleep & every minute of the day in between was filled with thoughts of him it was pure torment & agonizing. I looked for him everywhere i went.
    The only relief i had was to be asleep. I could not control my love for him even though he was a sick abusive weirdo to me & he hated me.
    i was finally released from the agonizing soul tie when the creep died.

    So i was wondering do these prayers really work when someone is convinced it is love, along with the pining, the longing, the constant thoughts of the other & the love thats sent through the emotional connection?;

    I forced my husband to pray the prayer out loud even though he wont admit his affair. I also made him trample her love & the soul tie in Jesus name & made him cut it off with the sword of the spirit & the power of the blood of Jesus & the cross too
    We also sealed any open doors with the blood of Jesus.
    we also cast out her spirit & i did notice i felt a shift happen like it suddenly felt lighter & freer in the room so i do believe something did happen but can anyone who has personally experienced freedom from such a heavy bondage as the one i described with the constant thoughts & longings please share whether this worked to free you please?

  46. Hello, Jane,
    Yes, praying always “works.” Does the prayer of freedom from soul ties work? Yes, it does when we repent for the soul tie and ask for forgiveness. It is not a magic prayer (nor is any other prayer), but true repentance always brings freedom.

    This web site is not a blog or a chat room, so you will not get replies about your inquiry from others. We trust you will continue to walk in freedom as you seek God in every area of your life.


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