Soul ties were God’s idea to bring blessing into our lives. It was His plan that wherever a soul tie existed between two persons, there would be a mutually beneficial sharing of soul blessings. It is because of the existence of sin that Satan has been able to counterfeit God’s good design and use God-instituted soul ties to perpetuate his plan in our lives.

Godly Soul Ties in Marriage:  God purposed and promised from the beginning that a husband and wife would be joined as “one flesh.” This would be enacted by the sexual union experienced in marital intercourse, an outward sign of the inward grace given by God for this “one flesh” promise. God designed this soul tie for our good and intended it for blessing.

Godly Soul Ties Between Parent and Child: Good soul ties are founded on the law of love is alive in the parent/child relationship. Parents are to be the first demonstration of the love of God for a child. As this is lived out, a union is formed—first within the womb and then throughout infancy and childhood. The parent is connected on a deep and godly level with the child and the child with the parent, as long as the love that exists demonstrates the love of the Heavenly Parent, our loving and Almighty Father God.

Godly Soul Ties Between Friends:  Another kind of soul tie which is godly is deep and committed friendship as demonstrated for us in the union of David and Jonathan. “The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul”. 1 Sam. 18:1

Godly Soul Ties Between Believers: The family of God is realized in the Body of Christ. “The whole body joined and knit together by what every joint supplies…causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love” Eph. 4:16. This godly relationship between Christians in the Body of Christ is necessary for the advancement of the Kingdom of God! We are bound together with ties that may not be physically seen, but are nonetheless the reality of our life together! 

     Godly Soul Ties       

– created by godly bonds between humans
– founded on love
– reinforced by patterns of godly behavior
– function within godly boundaries
– leads to greater holiness
– results in blessing and wholeness 


Satan cannot create or function within the realm that is good or godly. Therefore, Satan brings about a sinful counterfeit. Ungodly soul ties result from a perversion of what God designed as good and holy. That which God intended for good is marked and distorted, thereby deviating from its intended right purpose. Look at these distortions:

Ungodly Soul Ties

– created by ungodly human bonding
– founded on lust or selfish desire
– reinforced by sinful patterns
– function outside God’s boundaries
– leads to greater sin
– results in curses and destruction

Soul Ties Formed in an Ungodly Friendship, Relationship or Affiliation:“Do not be deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations_ corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character” 1 Cor. 15:33.  God is aware we as people are influenced by our friends and associations. The fruit of soul ties that develop with sinful or evil companions, co-workers and organizations (even ministries!) produce behavior which is contrary to the Spirit of God.  Ungodly soul ties created through close friendships with unbelievers are Satan’s counterfeit and are intended to bring curses and destruction. 

It is possible to have Ungodly soul ties with animals. things, pastors, spiritual leaders, parents, children, the demonic and even the dead.  Anything that takes our focus off of God, Jesus Christ and the leading of the Holy Spirit should be look into as a potential unGodly soul tie.  Another way to look at this concept is that these are “idols” in our lives.

Luke 10:27 “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; this is the first commandment.”  Anything that prevents you from that is idolatry. Anything that comes between you and God, that keeps you from serving Him and loving Him above all, is an idol, a little god in your life. Anything that keeps you from obeying Him and His Word is an idol and must be broken and removed from your life if you are to serve Him with a pure and whole heart and partake of the Kingdom.

Ungodly Soul Ties Formed Through Sexual Sin: Because God designed sexuality to be expressed exclusively in the sanctity and safety of the marital relationship, A flood of blessing comes into the couple through this bridge or cord which connects and binds their souls together. When a man and woman or a man and a man or a woman and a woman engage in sinful sexual intimacy outside of marriage, instead of receiving a blessing from the joining of their bodies, they receive a curse. Through sexual relationship outside of marriage, evil soul ties are forged. Those who engage in sex outside of marriage become the “one flesh” (God’s Law) which God intended solely for husband and wife.


  • Obsessive preoccupation with another, to the neglect of the things of the Lord.
  • Tendencies to be domineering and controlling in a relationship.
  • Tendencies to be passive and apathetic in a relationship (easily manipulated).
  • Inability to truly forgive from the heart.
  • Another person’s voice playing over and over in the mind like a tape-recorder.
  • Inability to bring a relationship under the godly order and control of the Holy Spirit.
  • Patterns of anger, blame and accusations in a relationship.
  • Fear of “being real with” or speaking truth to another (intimidation and fear of man).
  • Psychic or occultic phenomena within a relationship.

A soul tie is a ‘channel’. Think of a soul tie as a drinking straw through which flows mental, emotional and spiritual things, be they from the human spirit, be they psychically induced, demonically inspired, or genuine and edifying from the Lord.  Because demonic spirits can transfer so easily through soul ties, it’s essential to identify and destroy those that are ungodly, controlling, or emotionally binding.

Unless these soul ties are cut, they will produce a harvest of bad fruit in the life of the Christian adult and certainly in the sexual and marital life.


As we walk through the steps to cutting ungodly soul ties, remember that these ties between your soul and the soul of another were created by a “legal contract”, enacted a legal point of access between your souls, in the spiritual realm. As cut these ties, we are canceling a legal spiritual contract — we are rendering null and void that which sin produced and we are cutting away the souls which were bound, thereby creating a godly distance between you and the other person.

Here are the steps you may take to cut ungodly soul ties and remember, although you may follow these steps in your own prayer closet, we are called to confess our faults to one another according to James 5:16, and walking through these steps out loud with a trusted Christian friend or pastor (same gender, please!) is extremely helpful: 

1. Confession & Repentance

2. Renounce the connection made through ungodly bonding.

3. Post a spiritual eviction notice on your soul.

4. Command any spirits which are connect to this soul tie to leave in Christ’s Name.

5. Forgive and offer God’s personal blessing on the person


FIRST, repentance is necessary. In ungodly soul ties, God’s laws have somehow been violated. Express any personal guilt you may have in this matter If there has been sexual sin; confess it, even if you have confessed before. Ask God to forgive you of any part you played in developing this ungodly soul tie. In the case of molestation or other situations where these is no sin in the person who has been abused, It is good to express the reality that sin was in the abuser and that this sin produced this soul tie.

SECOND, renounce the connection made through ungodly bonding. Express that this contract is “cancelled” and the soul tie is “cut.” Do this out loud in the authority of Jesus Christ. You need to hear yourself say it and certainly, the spiritual realm need to hear that you are canceling this contract.

THIRD, post a spiritual eviction notice on your soul. Command, in Christ’s Name, that the person has NO LEGAL ACCESS to your soul through ungodly means. Pronounce your soul set free from theirs and any sin, curses, or bondage that may have resulted from this tie. Announce that the enemy has no further legal right to your soul and that every ungodly soul tie developed in this relationship is now destroyed in the Name of Jesus!

FOURTH, command any spirits which are connect to this soul tie to leave in Christ’s Name. Because we recognize that soul ties are a prime vehicle on which spirits can ride into our lives, it is good to use this opportunity to pronounce that they also are evicted!

FIFTH and finally, forgive and offer God’s personal blessing on the person whose soul you have just cut from yours. Ask the Lord to bless them, for their salvation and forgive them for any part they have played in bringing the enemy’s plan into your life.

REJOICE!  Some have after-effects of a sense of peace, or even sadness. Regardless of what emotions may or may not accompany your prayerful cutting of ungodly soul ties, you have assured with confidence the cancellation of those ties the spirit realm! Rejoice our Lord is in the business of setting captives free and in these prayers and your conscientious follow-up, your soul has been set free from ungodly ties produced by sin!



Father in heaven, thank you for revealing to me the presence of this/these soul tie(s) with:

                        __________________________________ (ALL the names of involved)

                        __________________________________ (ALL the names on items or issues involved)

I confess and ask you to forgive me for my sin which activated this ungodly soul tie.  I ask you to forgive me for any part I played in developing this ungodly soul tie.  (Note: In the case of molestation or other situations where these is no sin in the person who has been abused, confession of sin is not necessary, although it is good to express the reality that sin was evident in the abuser and that this sin produced this soul tie.) 

By the power of the Holy Spirit and in the name of Jesus I “cancel” this tie and “cut” it off from me. I command, in Jesus name, that these persons/things have NO LEGAL ACCESS to my soul through ungodly means. My soul is set free from theirs and any sin, curses, or bondage that may have resulted from this tie.  I command any spirits tieD to this soul tie, to depart in Jesus name.

I bless those I just released from these soul ties and ask the Lord to bless them, for their salvation and forgive them for any part they have played in bringing the enemy’s plan into your life. 

I thank you Father that I am now free, in Jesus name Amen.



Soul Ties — 67 Comments

  1. I have an ungodly soul tie with my ex (isn’t a believer), who is obsessed with me and controlling, even though I moved to the other side of the world. He still contacts me and if I try to block him or ignore him, he messages repeatedly for days on end until I cave and respond. I am seeing a Christian counselor who is helping me understand and break the soul tie. Once it’s broken, does it heal his end too? Will the tie being cut release him as well from his obsession and enable him to move on with his life, or does it just release me from the bond? Will he remain in bondage?

  2. Hi Dave

    I have a question in regard to an ungodly soul tie. I have been living with my boyfriend on and off now for 11 years. I am a Christian and he is not. I have just recently found out about breaking soul ties and have started the process in doing so. I do not want this man around anymore in my life, but he refuses to leave my house (which I own, paid for by my own earnings etc). I left him a few years back and that is when I purchased my house. I do not know how to get him to go and in trying to do so I feel that the breaking of the soul tie may not be working. I need some guidance in regard to this situation because I do so much wish to break this tie with him and get on with my life and back to my ties with Jesus, God and the Holy Spirit.

  3. You may need some legal advice regarding getting a restraining order against your boyfriend. You should also begin to pray that the power of the Holy Spirit will make your boyfriend uncomfortable in your home. Pray that a spirit of peace will reside in a tangible way in your home and in you. Ask a couple of trusted friends that truly know how to pray to join you in prayer for you to regain dominion over your home.

    I will encourage you that when we pray, God hears and answers the “effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man (woman) avails much.” James 5:16. Repent for your ungodly soul tie and figuratively “break” the tie by announcing outloud to the Enemy by the power of the Name of Jesus, you are no longer tied to the person. The Enemy cannot withstand when the Name of Jesus is used as a weapon against him. Philippians 2:10 tells us, “That at the Name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth.”

    I speak a blessing over you today as you move to a new level of faith.

  4. I am in love with my pastor, (he’s single and he’s a prophet as well) He only comes every 2months to visit or have a special prophetic service in South Africa. The main church/headquarter is in Nigeria. From the moment I laid eyes on him I’ve never been able to stop thinking about him, when I found out that he was single I started praying for him to be my husband. I started having faith that we’ll be together which subsequently led to me having “visions” and really believing that we’d be together one day. I pray for him every chance I get, I even did a “vision collage board” where I put our pictures together like that of a couple.

    When I miss him I just close my eyes and “daydream” about us together, sometimes it gets so intense that I physically feel whatever i’m thinking about and get a jolt when I open my eyes.

    I have so much faith that we’ll be together so much so that I’ve started behaving like we are an item already (i don’t go around telling people that we are together but I turn down men who are interested in me) because in my head and my heart he’s my husband.

    He knows I exist, we have spoken but he just doesn’t know how I feel about him.

    My question is, have I created a soul tie unknowingly? or do I just have faith? How do you distinguish between the two?

  5. Thank you Dave for your prayer, guidance and understanding. God Bless you and God Bless this webpage that you have to help those that are seeking the ability to break any soul ties they may have. I pray that each person that is going through this challenge be free from their soul tie that they are trying to break.


  7. Please can you help me. As part of cutting soul ties can you advise how you can reject any demonic parts attached to remove human parts and to cancel any exchanges

  8. Lorraine,
    You don’t have to put up with the enemy’s lies. Combat every evil whisper with God’s truth and you will stay in peace. Cast down the imaginations coming against your soul and think about what the Word says instead. Resist the python spirit’s work to choke the dream of God out of your life! Keep pressing, binding and taking authority!

  9. This message is sooooooo on time. Im a heterosexual female and met a heterosexual lady 2 years ago based on business. We became friends while doing business and we are both christiansband she professes to be a pastor. I let she and her son move in my home and we fought like cats and dogs. I learned she owed almost $4 million in federal taxes as well as mortgage fraud and ponzi schemes. I kept seeing visions of someone looking for her and it turned out the IRS was looking for her. I had her move out after living with me for 6 months and she owned a 6 unit apartment building that was foreclosed upon and she eventually got evicted and I have been praying against an ungodly soultie. This woman was extremely contentious and always mimicking me and I became scared of her because she seems to also have a schizophrenic issue. I really believe she is a fugitive and I don’t want my livelihood coming under an attack if her soul somehow trys to latch itself and cleave to my soul. Is this possible? Does anyone know if this can happen? She has been calling me all day talking about how she is now homeless and I don’t want her spirit anywhere near me. Please advise.

  10. I absolutely have ungodly soultie with family. I experienced life-long cycles of rejection and now Im 50 and dont want to be around them abd have has zero contact for years for my peace of mind. Now I am told my 81 year old mother is very ill a d not doing so well. In the past, she would only argue with me and berate me and land herself in the hospital and with her body being so fragile, I don’t want to get blamed if something should happen to her while she is verbally attacking me so I honor her by praying for her. Am I in error?

  11. i understand how you feel. i honor my mother and father with prayer i do not talk to my mother because she always endangered our lives with being around mentally ill people and she being 70 years old still doing it today jezbel spirit.. i understand how you feel. your mom is in bad health because of the things she did and she says.. i would go and see her and tell her how you feel if she attacks you again.. then just pray over her and ask her if she has accepted jesus .. if you cant get through then leave at least you tried and leave it to the lord and you wont be hounded by regrets..

  12. Hi,
    My husband has an ungodly soul tie with his male friend from the Middle East. He had him stay in our house for a couple of months now without my permission that led me to leave our house. He then told me that I cannot go back to the house that we own and the friend texted me that even if its my husband and him until they die is good. Please let me know how to break this ungodly soul tie. Can I stand in the gap for my husband? Thanks.

  13. Im having. A soul tie i love this girl to death man i havent loved. Or been. Atttracted to any girl before. Like this girl we got separated because. She went to college and when she came back she told me she cheated on me and the funny thing is i did the exact same i CHEATED but she doesn’t know fully but i forgave her but sense that. Time ive never forgotten my trust. For her vanished when im with her everything is cool but i always. Get that vibe like i shouldn’t trust her but she always told me to not listen so i did and we became close like best friends then and everything was great but then i told her we shouldn’t have sex until marriage we Both agreed and we both feared. What might happened and then one day we couldn’t hold our word any longer. Then we did it and since that time ive gone crazy over her always. Thinking i took her serious more than god basically and at times i felt hopless and depressed and i felt i couldn’t Live with out her my thoughts got worse about. Her i be became distant and my thoughts even convinced me to not think of god. Too and she would always pray for me and pray. Thay we stay together no matter what soo i was hooked on her she never treated me wrong ever during the summer She was always there for me so that to me was real love and then these thoughts. Always. Told me she didn’t love. Me and always confused me so i became. Distant. And she didn’t. Liked that and any time im with her or talk to her she always. Advice me to pray and after that im good but i can’t ever get enough. Of her when we had contact during. The summer our love was strong. But when she went back to school ive been distant. Cuz i feel i will invade her privacy but she always tells me my privacy. Ishers but i still feel she’s not honest so i prayes that god cancel soul ties and i felt Better

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