Soul Ties


Soul ties were God’s idea to bring blessing into our lives. It was His plan that wherever a soul tie existed between two persons, there would be a mutually beneficial sharing of soul blessings. It is because of the existence of sin that Satan has been able to counterfeit God’s good design and use God-instituted soul ties to perpetuate his plan in our lives.

Godly Soul Ties in Marriage:  God purposed and promised from the beginning that a husband and wife would be joined as “one flesh.” This would be enacted by the sexual union experienced in marital intercourse, an outward sign of the inward grace given by God for this “one flesh” promise. God designed this soul tie for our good and intended it for blessing.

Godly Soul Ties Between Parent and Child: Good soul ties are founded on the law of love is alive in the parent/child relationship. Parents are to be the first demonstration of the love of God for a child. As this is lived out, a union is formed—first within the womb and then throughout infancy and childhood. The parent is connected on a deep and godly level with the child and the child with the parent, as long as the love that exists demonstrates the love of the Heavenly Parent, our loving and Almighty Father God.

Godly Soul Ties Between Friends:  Another kind of soul tie which is godly is deep and committed friendship as demonstrated for us in the union of David and Jonathan. “The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul”. 1 Sam. 18:1

Godly Soul Ties Between Believers: The family of God is realized in the Body of Christ. “The whole body joined and knit together by what every joint supplies…causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love” Eph. 4:16. This godly relationship between Christians in the Body of Christ is necessary for the advancement of the Kingdom of God! We are bound together with ties that may not be physically seen, but are nonetheless the reality of our life together! 

     Godly Soul Ties       

- created by godly bonds between humans
- founded on love
- reinforced by patterns of godly behavior
- function within godly boundaries
- leads to greater holiness
- results in blessing and wholeness 


Satan cannot create or function within the realm that is good or godly. Therefore, Satan brings about a sinful counterfeit. Ungodly soul ties result from a perversion of what God designed as good and holy. That which God intended for good is marked and distorted, thereby deviating from its intended right purpose. Look at these distortions:

Ungodly Soul Ties

- created by ungodly human bonding
- founded on lust or selfish desire
- reinforced by sinful patterns
- function outside God’s boundaries
- leads to greater sin
- results in curses and destruction

Soul Ties Formed in an Ungodly Friendship, Relationship or Affiliation:“Do not be deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations_ corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character” 1 Cor. 15:33.  God is aware we as people are influenced by our friends and associations. The fruit of soul ties that develop with sinful or evil companions, co-workers and organizations (even ministries!) produce behavior which is contrary to the Spirit of God.  Ungodly soul ties created through close friendships with unbelievers are Satan’s counterfeit and are intended to bring curses and destruction. 

It is possible to have Ungodly soul ties with animals. things, pastors, spiritual leaders, parents, children, the demonic and even the dead.  Anything that takes our focus off of God, Jesus Christ and the leading of the Holy Spirit should be look into as a potential unGodly soul tie.  Another way to look at this concept is that these are “idols” in our lives.

Luke 10:27 “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; this is the first commandment.”  Anything that prevents you from that is idolatry. Anything that comes between you and God, that keeps you from serving Him and loving Him above all, is an idol, a little god in your life. Anything that keeps you from obeying Him and His Word is an idol and must be broken and removed from your life if you are to serve Him with a pure and whole heart and partake of the Kingdom.

Ungodly Soul Ties Formed Through Sexual Sin: Because God designed sexuality to be expressed exclusively in the sanctity and safety of the marital relationship, A flood of blessing comes into the couple through this bridge or cord which connects and binds their souls together. When a man and woman or a man and a man or a woman and a woman engage in sinful sexual intimacy outside of marriage, instead of receiving a blessing from the joining of their bodies, they receive a curse. Through sexual relationship outside of marriage, evil soul ties are forged. Those who engage in sex outside of marriage become the “one flesh” (God’s Law) which God intended solely for husband and wife.


  • Obsessive preoccupation with another, to the neglect of the things of the Lord.
  • Tendencies to be domineering and controlling in a relationship.
  • Tendencies to be passive and apathetic in a relationship (easily manipulated).
  • Inability to truly forgive from the heart.
  • Another person’s voice playing over and over in the mind like a tape-recorder.
  • Inability to bring a relationship under the godly order and control of the Holy Spirit.
  • Patterns of anger, blame and accusations in a relationship.
  • Fear of “being real with” or speaking truth to another (intimidation and fear of man).
  • Psychic or occultic phenomena within a relationship.

A soul tie is a ‘channel’. Think of a soul tie as a drinking straw through which flows mental, emotional and spiritual things, be they from the human spirit, be they psychically induced, demonically inspired, or genuine and edifying from the Lord.  Because demonic spirits can transfer so easily through soul ties, it’s essential to identify and destroy those that are ungodly, controlling, or emotionally binding.

Unless these soul ties are cut, they will produce a harvest of bad fruit in the life of the Christian adult and certainly in the sexual and marital life.


As we walk through the steps to cutting ungodly soul ties, remember that these ties between your soul and the soul of another were created by a “legal contract”, enacted a legal point of access between your souls, in the spiritual realm. As cut these ties, we are canceling a legal spiritual contract — we are rendering null and void that which sin produced and we are cutting away the souls which were bound, thereby creating a godly distance between you and the other person.

Here are the steps you may take to cut ungodly soul ties and remember, although you may follow these steps in your own prayer closet, we are called to confess our faults to one another according to James 5:16, and walking through these steps out loud with a trusted Christian friend or pastor (same gender, please!) is extremely helpful: 

1. Confession & Repentance

2. Renounce the connection made through ungodly bonding.

3. Post a spiritual eviction notice on your soul.

4. Command any spirits which are connect to this soul tie to leave in Christ’s Name.

5. Forgive and offer God’s personal blessing on the person


FIRST, repentance is necessary. In ungodly soul ties, God’s laws have somehow been violated. Express any personal guilt you may have in this matter If there has been sexual sin; confess it, even if you have confessed before. Ask God to forgive you of any part you played in developing this ungodly soul tie. In the case of molestation or other situations where these is no sin in the person who has been abused, It is good to express the reality that sin was in the abuser and that this sin produced this soul tie.

SECOND, renounce the connection made through ungodly bonding. Express that this contract is “cancelled” and the soul tie is “cut.” Do this out loud in the authority of Jesus Christ. You need to hear yourself say it and certainly, the spiritual realm need to hear that you are canceling this contract.

THIRD, post a spiritual eviction notice on your soul. Command, in Christ’s Name, that the person has NO LEGAL ACCESS to your soul through ungodly means. Pronounce your soul set free from theirs and any sin, curses, or bondage that may have resulted from this tie. Announce that the enemy has no further legal right to your soul and that every ungodly soul tie developed in this relationship is now destroyed in the Name of Jesus!

FOURTH, command any spirits which are connect to this soul tie to leave in Christ’s Name. Because we recognize that soul ties are a prime vehicle on which spirits can ride into our lives, it is good to use this opportunity to pronounce that they also are evicted!

FIFTH and finally, forgive and offer God’s personal blessing on the person whose soul you have just cut from yours. Ask the Lord to bless them, for their salvation and forgive them for any part they have played in bringing the enemy’s plan into your life.

REJOICE!  Some have after-effects of a sense of peace, or even sadness. Regardless of what emotions may or may not accompany your prayerful cutting of ungodly soul ties, you have assured with confidence the cancellation of those ties the spirit realm! Rejoice our Lord is in the business of setting captives free and in these prayers and your conscientious follow-up, your soul has been set free from ungodly ties produced by sin!



Father in heaven, thank you for revealing to me the presence of this/these soul tie(s) with:

                        __________________________________ (ALL the names of involved)

                        __________________________________ (ALL the names on items or issues involved)

I confess and ask you to forgive me for my sin which activated this ungodly soul tie.  I ask you to forgive me for any part I played in developing this ungodly soul tie.  (Note: In the case of molestation or other situations where these is no sin in the person who has been abused, confession of sin is not necessary, although it is good to express the reality that sin was evident in the abuser and that this sin produced this soul tie.) 

By the power of the Holy Spirit and in the name of Jesus I “cancel” this tie and “cut” it off from me. I command, in Jesus name, that these persons/things have NO LEGAL ACCESS to my soul through ungodly means. My soul is set free from theirs and any sin, curses, or bondage that may have resulted from this tie.  I command any spirits tieD to this soul tie, to depart in Jesus name.

I bless those I just released from these soul ties and ask the Lord to bless them, for their salvation and forgive them for any part they have played in bringing the enemy’s plan into your life. 

I thank you Father that I am now free, in Jesus name Amen.


38 Responses to Soul Ties

  1. cj says:

    Thank you for this website page on soul ties. While I have prayed often a prayer like “In Jesus Name I break the evil soul tie _______________ and cast out the evil soul __________.” I still had some ungodly connections with leadership at my former church. I attended my former church for a number of years… free of any evil soul tie manifestations. But that change during the summer of 2008 as all hell seemed to break loose in the spirit realm. Much to my sorrow I was forced to leave my church and don’t know if I will ever relate to another church with complete trust. For a long time I realized I had idolized the senior pastor and that sin created an evil soul tie eventually. I have been crying out to God to release me from any psychic or supernatural connection. I think this site has helped answer that prayer and perhaps give me additional insight.

  2. EG says:

    I have been saved over twenty years and just as I meditate on this I wounder “why I have never learned about this before?” I don’t want to think that my pastors were ignorant, but they did focused more on prevention. Thank you!!

  3. LifeCoach321 says:

    Thank you so much for your kind comments. We are hoping to be a resource for believers to understand all the tools that the Lord has provided for us to walking in a victorious Spirit-led lifestyle.

  4. Michelle says:

    I have a really deep rooted type of soul tie with my fiancee. I know it’s a bad one because every sign that has been described both fornication and the negativity that comes along with this soul tie has developed. I told him, myself and my family and friends that I was done with him, yet we both can’t go too many days without seeing one another or connecting with one another both physically, mentally emotionally and spiritually. I’m to the point where I cannot stand being around him due to past issues (control,abuse,etc.) yet, i cannot get him out of my system (so to speak). I just said the prayer to remove the soul tie. I really need our souls to be untied because I know our relationship is not healthy, especially for me. I guess at this time I need to just put it in God’s hands and pray that it ends soon.

  5. LifeCoach321 says:

    Thank you for your kind comments. We pray for God’s freedom for you and that the Lord will lead you and direct you in His paths for your life.

  6. Confused says:

    I guess my relationship would fall under the ungodly soul tie category. I’ve been living with the same guy for almost 15years. We both are believers however we are not married. Now I’m wondering if we were to get married is it possible to break the ties and start anew?

  7. LifeCoach321 says:

    God wants you to be in covenant relationship with Himself and each other. It is a 3 strand cord that can’t be broken. When you come before the Lord in a marriage covenant, He can respond to your prayer of agreement to break all “soul ties” from the past in the name of Jesus and your relationship will grow stronger and more fulfilling as He blesses your union. Yes, I believe doing this will move your relationship into a new and higher realm.

  8. Bruce says:

    I came upon your site today about ungodly soul ties. I have several questions that I would like to ask: If one breaks ungodly soul tie with a relative, will his/her sins be separated from the relative? What if the relative uses that person’s name in an ungodly ritual to get him/her to forsake God?

  9. bruce says:

    What if you want to break ungodly soul ties with a family member whom you know will run into you some time in the future?

  10. LifeCoach321 says:

    Breaking ungodly soul ties is a spiritual manifestation and it will help you have the appropriate relationship with the referenced family member.

  11. LifeCoach321 says:

    If you break, in the name of jesus the ungodly soul tie, it no longer has control over you. If the relative uses your name in an ungodly ritual, it is a “curse” and that “curse” can also be broken off in the name of Jesus Christ!

  12. Charlene says:

    I was told today about Soul Ties never heard of this before. I have a situation that I really need to be set free from. I was in a relationship for about 20 years with this man. The relationship was very unhealthy but for some reason I could not leave. This man cheated on me the whole time. He was also very abusive mentally and physically. I have just recently tried to cut all ties with him but he doesn’t make it easy for me. I need all and any help that I can get. I pray that this is what I need to help me through this.

  13. tony says:

    i was holding on to two peoples quilt which destroyed my life, but saved my life at the same time for i found a living God

    when i was 18 i became over worked and stressed and unable to see clearly, i then dated and had a relationship with a girl who was not a good match for me but was unaware of this, i started to worry she was unfaithful, but did nothing about it until at 19 i was burnt out, i went to the doctors saying i have no energy
    but they could not find anything

    i broke it of with the girl and 6 months latter burnt out,
    to cut the story a year after that i camped in the bush by the river
    and seeked god as medical doctors and medication never helped,
    God showed up but healing never came

    i have been very unwell / bed ridden suicide attempts and no matter what i did to recover i could not, im now 36 and on a disability pension
    But about 3 months ago the lord told me to camp over night in a cave so
    i obeyed and The lord showed me i was carrying trauma,
    what happened was that girl i dated when i was 18 was sleeping with a friend of mine continually behind my back, once the lord showed me this and i kept forgiving them through Christ as it caused me alot of pain i then seen and felt there guilt
    lift of me, and since then i am starting to go forward

    through all the years of stress, insomnia and anxiety my body has become toxic with heavy metals but the lord has told me he is going to fully restore me

    i know some people prayed and there trauma or soul ties were healed in a couple of months and another person in 8 months,

    but for me god allowed me to carry there quilt for 17 – 18 years which drained me / im not bitter as i needed to learn what i needed to learn and god really is so amazing !!

    John 10:10

    God will come through for you as it is written in Romans 8: 28
    and through the fire we are refined.

  14. Marie McErvale says:

    I have been in a relationship for 11 years with a man who suffers mental illness and also smokes dope. I am a Christian and he is Greek orthodox. He is a functioning addict and a workaholic. Never stops. He is a chef, and never misses a days work but he is definitely under the power of Satan. He calls himself the King of Kings, and all of his writings cannot be comprehended and 666 is constantly in the mix.

    I have just prayed the prayer to break this soul tie.

    He believes he has to rewrite the Bible, and he has boxes piled to the ceiling with religious rantings. He waxes human hair, casts stones, puts curses on countries, and believes when there are earthquakes, floods and tidal waves, that he has caused it to happen.

    He says he decides who will be written in the book of life, and believes he is a sorcerer. He does not think he has anything wrong with him and believes that he saw Jesus as a child and this is his calling to re write the Bible because it is filled with lies.

    I know it is a spiritual thing and that he has demonic strongholds over his life. I have been naïve and very much loved him and he has always loved me and been kind to me but I have decided for the sake of my soul and my children that I am going to part from him. It is hard and I feel both sad, but pleased because I have stood up to the Devil and his demonic forces.

    I have prayed for his deliverance often, but see no evidence of change. I have sat and prayed with him, and had him repeat the sinners prayer, but nothing, so I know I have to move on and can only hope that he survives it all. He is on medication which he receives in the form on injection, but there is not much change and his thoughts and writings continue. I know he is under the power of Satan, and I can only hope that he finds his salvation one day.

  15. Liz says:

    I just recently found out about soul ties but it made perfect scence ,I have been with my husband for 7 years but we have only been married for 3 , when we first got to gether everything was good I was only 16 at the time and he was my first real relationship as time went on he became bitter he has so much hate he calles me names always puts me down ,I think that he is like this because he was in a very bad relationship with a thirty year old women when he was 16 and she cheated on him and he had got in to an argument with hurt and hurt his arm really bad she left him while he was in the hospital he had almost died . So I feel like that’s why he is so angry and calles me names bc he has brought that to are relationship , I’m not sure what to do .

  16. Liz,
    I have copied an article from regarding co-dependency. It may be helpful to you as you determine the best boundaries to set as you attempt to better your relationship with your husband. Boundaries are necessary to develop healthy behaviors. For example: no name calling or no violence. You cannot suddenly tell him that he is not allowed to do certain things. A meeting in which both of you are calm and cooperative is the time to discuss these things.

    It is very possible he has a soul tie. But it is also possible there is unforgiveness in his heart, either toward her or you, or someone else that has hurt him. If he is a Christian, he needs to be led into a prayer of forgiveness in order to be free from the past.

    I encourage you to get some counseling. Hopefully, you are attending a church that will offer free counseling from a Godly perspective. If you are not attending church, check on line to look for a Bible believing church in your area.

    There are some great classes available for people that deal with co-dependency and other issues. Celebrate Recovery is a good group that you check on line to see if there is one in your area. Meanwhile, ask the Lord to show you if co-dependency is your issue or if there is unforgiveness in your own heart. All of us deal with the issue of forgiveness. I have a good prayer on our web site under the heading of “Freedom prayers”.

    God bless you as you seek Him regarding these issues.

    Here is the co-dependency article:
    Question: “What does the Bible say about codependency?”

    Answer: Codependency is a mental health designation for relationships in which people use one another to get their own emotional needs met, but in a selfish and destructive manner. Codependency is not a mental health diagnosis, but a symptom associated with many psychological disorders. Originally, codependent was a term used to describe partners in chemical dependency or in a relationship with an abusive person. Today, however, the term has been broadened to describe several types of destructive relationship patterns.

    Codependency comes in many forms, but they are all similar in nature. They all revolve around what a person can get from someone else by giving him or her something in return. For example, a parent may expect to control an adult child because of the parent’s financial support of the child. Another common scenario is when a friend will not confront another friend about his drug use for fear of losing a relationship with him. At the core the relationship is a focus on using one another rather than giving unconditional love and honest acceptance. This stems from our selfish human nature. Codependent people are like a parasite and a host: they each use the other to get something for themselves. Such relationships are not helpful, because neither party is willing to be truthful, and both parties are selfishly clinging to whatever it is they are getting (money, sex, friendship, admiration, power).

    One result of a codependent relationship pattern is that God takes second place to people. Codependents rely on each other for emotional needs and even some physical needs rather than take care of themselves. They also lack faith and trust in God to care for their needs and, as a result, manipulate others to get what they want. Codependent people typically are attracted to one another and will keep each other stuck in a dysfunctional blind spot by telling each other what they want to hear. This way, they both can feel okay, despite the chaos their choices are creating. Obviously, people who avoid telling the truth in love have trouble recognizing their own sinful habits or need for repentance.

    Related to codependency are other issues such as pride, fear of man (Proverbs 29:25), and boundaries. Pride blinds us from seeing our true self the way God sees us. While God loves us regardless of our sin, He has declared that we are 100 percent wicked and in need of a savior (Mark 10:18). That message offends our pride, which tells us we are basically good. Codependent people are loyal—in a destructive way—to their friends, so that they support sinful or even illegal behavior. Through denial or idealization, codependents keep each other feeling that they are not the ones with the problem. Codependency is a way to keep the blinders on and so ignore our sin.

    The same is true with the fear of man. We want people to think highly of us. Many times, this results in people-pleasing behaviors to create a façade to hide the genuine, flawed self.

    Finally, everyone needs healthy boundaries to maintain convictions and avoid being manipulated. However, codependent people don’t feel like a whole person and tend to copy others or attach themselves to people to gain a sense of identity. This results in an inability to make their own choices, because they want to preserve their dependent relationships. They also overstep others’ boundaries and try to control others rather than focus on themselves.

    The Bible addresses these issues by telling us how we ought to relate to one another. One concept found in Scripture is interdependency, which is the state of being mutually responsible to others while sharing a common set of principles. In the case of husband and wife, the Bible indicates that both spouses are dependent on each other for completion. Genesis 2:24 says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Both Jesus and Paul quoted this verse, and these three elements—leaving, cleaving, uniting—are often cited by marriage counselors as the major principles of a biblical marriage. Other passages also show this interdependence of husband and wife: Ephesians 5:22-33; 1Timothy 5:8; and Proverbs 31:10-31. As each spouse fulfills his or her role, the other benefits. This is biblical interdependency, and it should be embraced, not avoided. The Lord’s emphasis in dependency is on service, not on self.

    We also find the concept of interdependence in regard to spiritual gifts: “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms” (1 Peter 4:10). Both Romans 12 and 1 Corinthians 12 expand this teaching in the explanation of spiritual gifts. Ephesians 4:11-16 exhorts us to work with, depend on, and serve one another as the Lord has enabled us. In so doing, “the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.” Hebrews 10:24-25 commands us to “consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. . . . Let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

    Christian interdependence is vital to the body of Christ and its individual members. We are to love one another, eschew selfish ambition, and exercise the gifts of God for the benefit of others (John 13:34-35; Romans 12:3-6; Philippians 2:3-4). This is diametrically opposed to the selfishness, dishonesty, and destructiveness of codependency.

    Recommended Resources: When People Are Big and God Is Small: Overcoming Peer Pressure, Codependency, and the Fear of Man by Edward Welch and Logos Bible Software.


  17. ade says:

    God bless you for allowing yourself to be used by God. I have some questions
    1. Is it possible to be in a soul tie with someone who is unaware of it? As I kept thinking of the old friend, was she sensing it wherever she was?
    2. I thank God I don’t like her anymore. I forgive her and will even pray for her salvation as you suggested, though I wouldn’t pray God’s blessings on her. Considering what I’ve been through, I’d rather pray blessings on myself. Please pray for me too. Thank you

  18. Yes, it is possible to have to have a soul tie with someone who is not aware of it. Good examples are when young people have a soul tie with a celebrity who does not know the young person. The one piece of advice I would give is that in the Bible Jesus said: Luke 6:28 (AMP) Invoke blessings upon and pray for the happiness of those who curse you, implore God’s blessing (favor) upon those who abuse you [who revile, reproach, disparage, and high-handedly misuse you].
    You don’t have to want to do that, but you will be set free if you will make the decision to try. I pray God’s blessings and peace over you.

  19. Brian says:

    I prayed to break my emotional affair soul tie. However, I am finding that I still have thoughts of her and tempted to reconnect. We ended the affair months ago and God revealed to me the issue of soul ties recently. I said the prayer and asked God’s forgiveness. I destroyed every picture and blocked social media sites from her. Still I feel angry and sad. I am still tormented but the thoughts have greatly reduced. When these thoughts do come i often quote scripture but they come back. What should I do?

  20. cjwarren says:

    I read somewhere of praying “In Jesus name I circumcise this thought.” Perhaps such a prayer might help. IJN

  21. Brian,
    Yes, it is hard to take complete control of our thought lives. 2 Corinthians 10:5 says: “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.”
    This scripture indicates that taking our thoughts captive is an action required by us. So, when the thought occurs, we actively say “no, in Jesus’ Name” to dwelling on the thought. Replace the thought with a prayer of thanksgiving – something simple like, “thank You, Lord, for my salvation.” or “thank You for my job.” You can worship God in small ways: “Lord, I worship You because You are the creator of all good things.”

    Another thing that may help you would be to forgive the person with whom you had a soul tie. Forgiveness does not always mean restoration of relationship, and certainly not in the case of a soul tie. But, it does release you from any resentment or woundedness you may have. Here is the prayer you can pray:
    Lord, I don’t know how to make forgiveness happen. I can’t cleanse my heart or change my feelings. I don’t know how to trust, and I’m afraid to hold my heart open. But today I’m making a choice to forgive. Please God, give me the willingness and strength to persevere in choosing until forgiveness is accomplished in me by Your power.
    I choose to forgive my father/mother for …..
    I choose to forgive my husband/wife for …..
    I choose to forgive ______________ for ….
    Forgive in me all my sinful and unrighteous responses …..
    Father, I let go of all resentments and bitterness stored in my heart. Wash me clean. Forgive me for all condemning judgments I have made. Give me a new and right spirit within me that will enable me to hate sin but look with Your compassion and love upon the sinner. Heal the wounded heart within me. Pour Your love in. Bless those who wounded me.
    Let Your light shine into all the hidden places of my heart. Enlighten the eyes of my heart, Lord, to see You and love You as You really are, and to walk in Your way. In Jesus name, Amen.
    Sincerely, Dave

  22. This is an interesting thought I had not heard before. Circumcision means “to cut around”. I am assuming the teaching has to do with cutting off a thought with the result being purity.
    Thank you for your input. Dave

  23. My husband and I have been married just over a year we knew each other a year before we got married. At that time everything was good no problems. After six months of meeting him he was sent to prison for a year, I stood by him faithfully for the whole year. We were speaking of marriage before he went to jail and while he was in jail we planned to go through with it. I always spoke about was he sure he was ready, he in the past had lived a wild life in clubs bars strip clubs, has had many women. He assured me over and over again that he was ready to settle down and leave all that alone. So he got out we went through with the marriage. Things were good for a couple months then things started getting bad, I found out he was trying to get in touch with an ex of his, I confronted him he admitted it I forgave him and believed it wouldn’t happen again. A few weeks later he is just continuously getting depressed. He didn’t have a job yet and his license suspended, I worked full time with 3 kids that I brought into the marriage, so I start urging him to get a job, it becomes arguments, anyways he expects me to give him money, things steady get worse, he puts locks on his phone, he is having emotional relations with other females and texting and meeting up with them, not spending time with me I notice he cant look at me anymore, this goes on so long that finally we separate for a while, by his choice he says he needs his space he made a mistake he wasn’t ready to get married. meanwhile im a mess emotionally because im in love with this man I was ready for marriage and believed in him and trusted him, I knew what I was in for. while we were separated he still called and would pop up over at my house, he was speaking with other females and had sex with one of them during that time, he ended up coming home before thanksgiving, I got fed up and said he had to be all in or nothing so hes been back ever since but we argue I don’t feel like he loves me I ask him all the time he says he does and I ask him so much cuz his actions don’t reflect his words and he is not as loving or affectionate as he used to be. he still has lock on his phone, which I will not go in anyway for fear of seeing something that would hurt my feelings. He would always say to me I wasn’t the type for him he was used to being with woman who would do whatever he said and would have 3somes with him, so I go ahead and set up that encounter and we go through with it and I know growing up a Christian that it is wrong and im wrong for trying so hard to get him to love me like he used to. Just hoping and praying that he can return to being the man I met. Things are okay somewhat now, hes back home, however he lost his job due to his excessive drinking on weeknights before work his car broke and he has had some other bad luck. He is constantly sayin I wanna control his life, which I do not and I ask too many questions and oh I could go on and on. To the point I really truly feel that we have a bad evil soul tie and us and our marriage are under attack. I love my husband and want to stay married Im wondering is there anyway for us to break the soul tie and stay married and have a good one. I also think that one reason we have a bad one is cuz I literally adore him so much that its hard to carry on with my hobbies or my kids I just feel the need to always be in his presence. I want our marriage to work and I need to break the soul tie. Can you give me any advice please?

  24. JQ says:

    Hi Dave. I still confusing regarding ungodly soul ties..

    I always felt constatntly tired and lost all my energy surround my mom. I love her much, but she seems depend on me to fulfill her emotional needs. I cant laugh and free to be me near her. Its like i often felt guilty near her. My parents isn’t spirrit filled yet as Christian. Not believing in water baptized. I live with my parents now. Do i have to separate mysself from them? Does cut soul ties means only break it in the spirrit by the prayer, or we have to cut the communication also? Its really hard for me to leave them, as i need to recover my mental and my self. As the result of this ungodly soul ties, my Christianity become so miserable. I have no stable life so far. And as the result, i got quite severe mental illness. And it almost leads me to gave up my Christianity, i ashamed with my Christian life’s testimony also tired being messed up.

    The second question, i tend to require approval from my Pastor, and it comes to a point where i cant make the imagination of my Pastor away. I am more fear to him than to God. His approval means so much to me. Should i find another church. As the result of ungodly soul ties with him and the church, i became so far away from God, and always blame my pastor if i didn’t get his approval or attention. And God sometimes rebuke me with Isaiah 51:12-13. I realize that i am so afraid of my Pastor than God, but it seems i cant get rid of the fear i had towards him.

  25. Jamie says:

    Thank you for your information. I have been soul tied to my boyfriend of 6 years. This has caused me a lot of pain and a lot of issues as a result. God revealed to me today that in order to be free from this ungodly, unhealthy, codependent and painful relationship is to pray in authority in the breaking bondage of this soul tie in Jesus name! I am so thankful for this revelation. I have been waiting many years to find the answer in being free from this relationship. Although I love my ex boyfriend very much, I knew that it was not blessed which brought on many cursings. I pray that anyone who is in an ungodly relationship that is keeping them paralyzed will find freedom with the prayer above. God bless everyone!

  26. vanessa says:

    I am so grateful for this site. I just found out about soul ties today & it was a huge revelation to me. My question is if the person that you had the soul tie with was your boyfriend and he comes back into your life after the soul tie has been broken. Can you still be with this person or ia it forsure you will be tied again . I didnt have sex with this person but there was a very strong connection that i can not get over for 3 years. So do i have a risk of another tie just by spending time with this person?
    Thank you again.

  27. Hi says:

    Is it considered ungodly when a non-believer falls in love with someone, but that someone doesn’t reciprocate the feelings, even though the non-believer starts to believe (albeit slowly)? I.e. if love goes one-way, and the one who loves still believes and has faith in the one who’s loved, what does this constitute?

  28. Hope says:

    can you have a soul tie with someone who is deceased???

  29. Dave says:

    Yes, because it’s your attachment to them in your mind & emotions that needs to be released.

  30. Amanda Wheat says:

    Can you intercede for someone else to cut their soulties? My husband has an ungodly soultie with a guy he became friends with a couple of months ago that has caused him to quickly stray far from God.

  31. Dave says:

    You can intercede by asking God to continue to give your husband the opportunity to make the right choice of his will. He, however must ultimately chose to do right. You can “bind” that anti God spirit from affecting you or your family in the name of Jesus.

  32. gloe says:

    a guy began pursuing me a year ago, but i had known him for three years back in school and we werent friends perse just a person who said hi to me texted occasionally. so he began textimg constantly and calling then he began askin me to help find him a shag buddy coz he wanted a no strings attached, i tried hookin him up once but he said he wasnt attracted to her and then after that he began actively pursuing me, i resisted it for abt 6months, then i realised tht i had developed an attachment and feelings for him for i constantly thought about him and communicated with him on a daily basis and finally i gave in fully knowing he didnt love me and was probably sleeping wth other women. i knew he was bad, i knew that i shouldnt get mixed up with him, so i would cut communication for two or three months then i would miss him so much n hook up with him again, i am now obsessed with him, i think about him everymoment, i have imaginary conversations with him in my head, everything i buy or do i consider him in my choices, i cry about him and curse the day i met him coz he never looks for me first so if i dnt check him out.we could stay months without communication, and i just become one bomb of crazy waiting to explode. i am a single mother of a 3yr old, and i separated from the baby dady coz he kept insistin i convert to islam n when i redused he stopped providing financial support. i have never in my life loved and obsessed about a person like this, that song `everything i do i do it for you` literary applies to me coz even when i havent seen him in 3 months i constantly think and have imaginary conversations wth him. am a mess and i dont like this person that i have become and i need out now. please pray for me.

  33. All of the symptoms of a soul tie are present in your message. If you desire freedom from this man and this soul tie, I encourage you to go back to the web site and pray the prayer of release. Praying the prayer is not a magic formula, but a declaration in the spirit against any enemy (from the devil) control in our lives. The Bible tells us that we are not fighting against people, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in heavenly places. (Ephesians 6:12) So, this is why we pray to God, because it is a spiritual battle. We cannot do this alone. God bless you as you move forward with Him.

  34. juanita says:

    Is it possible to pray and break the soultie between myself and my ex yet it seems that we are still yearning for each other.we are both married. We can even feel when the other is sad or this possible

  35. Mei Yoong says:

    Hello, thank you so much for this site. I would like to ask, assuming that I have recognised that I am in an ungodly soul tie situation with someone and have decided to break that soul tie (by going through the steps/prayer that you have taught) and I am successful in doing so by His grace, what about the other person?

    If I have broken the soul tie on my side, will the other person also “automatically” have his soul tie with me broken (but the other person is a non-believer and does not believe in or care about “breaking any soul ties”)? Or, put another way, if I am no longer tormented by the ungodly soul tie because I have broken it on my side, will the other person also enjoy this freedom automatically, or will he still be having feelings of torment on his side?

    Thank you very much in advance for your advice/answer and please keep up the excellent work that you are doing in this much-neglected but very important area of “soul ties”.

  36. Cutting soul ties is like forgiving someone. It releases you from the attachment. You are free and it releases the other for the Lord to work with them.

  37. Tassy says:

    Hi Dave
    I have so many questions about soul ties

    I have prayed with a pastor to cut all soul ties with my ex but I have some questions would you please help me.
    I was dating a guy for 4 years last year we broke up for 3 months than got back together. We broke up again on the 1st of febuary and about two weeks later he had a new girlfriend. He called me to say no matter how hard he trys for some reason he cant move on all he does is think about me.

    So I went to a pastor for help they said we must break soul ties…
    so I would like to find out
    Once the soul tie is broken would he go on and just forget about me?
    must he go and break it himself ?
    has people ever gotten back together after a soul tie has been broken?
    If I broke it from my side is it broken too for him? Will he feel nothing sooner than me?


    Hello dave,
    my name is Priscilla i’m from Nigeria. I have been having issues with soul tie and psychic attacks because of my past relationships but i thank God for his mercies, healing and deliverances. Thanks for your article, been blessed by it tremendously, after the prayers feel restored and refreshed. Thank you and God bless you.

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